Loving Yourself

Matthew 22:37 – 39 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’ “

I have written about loving your uniquely beautiful life in Uniquely You but what about just you? Do you love you period? Or is it always attached to something? Always conditional. I could love me if I was more beautiful. I could love me if I weighed less. I could love me if I had great athletic ability. And the list goes on.

Honestly I really suck at self-love, I am definitely not an expert because just this week I tore shreds off myself over a graduation photo. I convinced myself that I was smiling too widely which distorted my eyes. Sadly this is not a one – time occurrence, give me any photo of myself and in the blink of eye I can have a very long list of every flaw.

This is not how I want to live, it is not how Jesus wants me to live; always being my worst critic. It is a hurtful not to mention a poisonous way to live. I needed to give myself some truth about my graduation photo.

The truth is the day I graduated I was so happy. I had accomplished a goal I had set for so long and as a result the joy spilled over.

The truth is the day I graduated I felt beautiful and confident. I loved my dress, jewellery, hair and makeup.

The truth is the day I graduated I got to celebrate the achievements of my friends. Proud friend moment right there.

The truth is the day I graduated I named the photo album ‘owning the moment’ and that’s what I did and what I will continue to do.

It is interesting when I think of my friends I immediately think of their good qualities; their kindness, humour or beauty, etc., but I struggle to do the same for me. It is not right that the voice in our head should rob us of our joy. Our peace. Our memories.

We have a choice. We can either let our self –critic grow in power until it is shouting at us with negativity or we can tell our self –critic to shut up, reaffirm the truth and have a self- cheerleader instead. I want to choose option B, even if I have to consciously choose that option in every moment.

To Jesus you are a treasure (Exodus 19:5b “You will be my treasured possession. Although the whole earth is mine.”). To Jesus you are beautiful (Song of Songs 1:15a “How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful!”). To Jesus you are a wonderful creation (Genesis 1:31a “God saw all that he had made, and it was very good.”). If we ever struggle with loving ourselves or struggle with our worth and value we need to look to Jesus who will lovingly remind us who we are. Giving us peace, love and joy to be our uniquely beautiful awesome selves. Period.



P.S I now think it is a beautiful graduation photo x

  • David Hoadley
    Posted at 08:03h, 02 March Reply

    Yay! Great stuff Cathy.

    The Lord just recently challenged me to read the passage from 1 Corinthians 13 as if it was talking to me about how to love myself.

    Then from a healthy place of self love I could love others the way God intended.

    blessings to you


    Aunty Olwen

  • Sarah Johansen
    Posted at 08:07h, 07 March Reply

    Hey Cath!

    It’s SOOO wonderful seeing you grow in your acceptance of yourself – yes, even love for yourself. Thanks for sharing. Pity it has to be such an ongoing battle for some of us (MOST of us women, I suspect!). You think you’ve got a handle on it and then it pops up again! So thanks for your encouraging reminder.

    I remember the time it dawned on me that the very first thing I could understand about myself from the biblical narrative was that I was created by God. Created BY GOD!! I (we) came into being through the spoken word of a perfect, glorious Maker who is incapable of making rubbish. That doesn’t leave much room for self-hatred! Yes, sin distorts and brings ugliness, but this is not our foundational identity; we are image-bearers, carriers of the life of God, uniquely equipped through his intelligent creativity and wisdom. And we don’t own ourselves, but we belong to a gracious and purposeful Master. Now that’s something to be confident about. And it’s a truth that get’s my eyes off myself and outward to the needs and enjoyment of others. Thankfully Jesus is in the business of saving us from our morbid self-absorption; saving us FOR joy and FOR carrying out his redemptive work as we surrender to him and love others. Woohoo!!

    Next time I see a photo of myself I’ll think of you and try to dwell on all the good things – seen and unseen – that are expressed through it 🙂

    Much love to all of you!
    Sarah J x

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