Self Love / 26.07.2018

Fun fact about me: as a little girl I loved fairy tales and princesses. My favourite Disney princess was Ariel from the Little Mermaid. I really related to the song ‘A Part of Your World’ because it appealed to my sense of wanting to belong, not to mention she had an amazing singing voice which I wish I had. And to top it off, Ariel got to swim around in the ocean all day long – I would pretend I was a mermaid in the bathtub (ah well)....

Encouragement / 26.04.2018

Today it hit me, at the end of this year it will be 2 years since I graduated and 3 years since I finished my uni degree in Strategic Communication. Rather than feeling proud I felt the opposite; highly anxious and deep sadness. Why? Because I haven’t accomplished what I term ‘success’. It was like ‘what have you been doing with your life?’ in the most accusing, unkind tone. Let’s pause there for a moment, because I would like to share 3 strategies to deal with anxiety I have...

Health + Wellbeing / 15.03.2018

A common comment I receive when I share my story to a live audience is “I could never do that” to which I reply “I have changed a lot”. Sure I still get nervous, but I am motived to encourage people in whatever storms they face in life. The old me would have never accepted an invitation to speak. When I had to complete oral presentations at both High School and University I would be counting down the seconds until it was over. So I would like to...

Health + Wellbeing / 08.02.2018

I have always been a perfectionist. It has been how I approached life from a very young age. Due to Cerebral Palsy I knew as a little girl I was not perfect physically and would get very frustrated when my body wouldn’t cooperate with what I wanted to do. All in an effort of having a semblance of normal life. The more I tried to involve myself and came up short, my anger and resentment grew for a disability I couldn’t ditch, although I tried. The worst was...

Health + Wellbeing / 01.02.2018

Due to Cerebral Palsy I struggle to walk backwards it is a lot easier to move forwards. Yet in life, figuratively speaking, I can bolt in the opposite direction at a moment’s notice. But I don’t want to be who I once was: full of fear and anxiety, lacking confidence and, at times due to these things, afraid to try; because let’s be honest not many of us like to fail even though falling down is a natural part of life. I read on Instagram one day that...

Encouragement / 18.01.2018

The day I finished up my volunteer position in November last year I chatted to my supervisor about ways I could improve. After offering a few suggestions and encouragement she said “you are really just lacking opportunities”. I knew in that moment I had been building to [dramatic music please]…APPROACHING AN EMPLOYMENT AGENCY! This is a huge step for me as it shows progress in acceptance, confidence and love of myself. As well as, to be honest, choking down my pride. My reasons for avoiding this avenue before was...

Health + Wellbeing / 23.11.2017

Last week I wrote about my own journey to embracing self – love in What Do You See? This week I would like to focus on another aspect of self – love and that is gratitude. When I began my journey of self – love it came from a negative place. I would exercise because I ‘had’ to lose weight; my relationship with food was full of anxiety (it is still something I am fighting). I had to heal and grow to be able to shift my thinking...

Self Love / 16.11.2017

When it comes to self-love I don’t pretend to have it all together. The way I have viewed my body in the past has been honestly quite sad; with such comments as ‘you are fat’, ‘your arms are too big’ and ‘your skin is too white’ were among my personal favourite criticisms of myself. When I looked in the mirror I would see someone that was way bigger than what I really was and I would look at photos of myself until they turned 'ugly' only focusing on...