Matthew 22:37 – 39 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’ “
I have written about loving your uniquely beautiful life in Uniquely You but what about just you? Do you love you period? Or is it always attached to something? Always conditional. I could love me if I was more beautiful. I could love me if I weighed less. I could love me if I had great athletic ability. And the list goes on.
Honestly I really suck at self-love, I am definitely not an expert because just this week I tore shreds off myself over a graduation photo. I convinced myself that I was smiling too widely which distorted my eyes. Sadly this is not a one – time occurrence, give me any photo of myself and in the blink of eye I can have a very long list of every flaw.
This is not how I want to live, it is not how Jesus wants me to live; always being my worst critic. It is a hurtful not to mention a poisonous way to live. I needed to give myself some truth about my graduation photo.
The truth is the day I graduated I was so happy. I had accomplished a goal I had set for so long and as a result the joy spilled over.
The truth is the day I graduated I felt beautiful and confident. I loved my dress, jewellery, hair and makeup.
The truth is the day I graduated I got to celebrate the achievements of my friends. Proud friend moment right there.
The truth is the day I graduated I named the photo album ‘owning the moment’ and that’s what I did and what I will continue to do.
It is interesting when I think of my friends I immediately think of their good qualities; their kindness, humour or beauty, etc., but I struggle to do the same for me. It is not right that the voice in our head should rob us of our joy. Our peace. Our memories.
We have a choice. We can either let our self –critic grow in power until it is shouting at us with negativity or we can tell our self –critic to shut up, reaffirm the truth and have a self- cheerleader instead. I want to choose option B, even if I have to consciously choose that option in every moment.
To Jesus you are a treasure (Exodus 19:5b “You will be my treasured possession. Although the whole earth is mine.”). To Jesus you are beautiful (Song of Songs 1:15a “How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful!”). To Jesus you are a wonderful creation (Genesis 1:31a “God saw all that he had made, and it was very good.”). If we ever struggle with loving ourselves or struggle with our worth and value we need to look to Jesus who will lovingly remind us who we are. Giving us peace, love and joy to be our uniquely beautiful awesome selves. Period.
P.S I now think it is a beautiful graduation photo x